Lately, as I’ve been ultra focused on all my plans for the next phase of my life, I realize, I need to try to remember to enjoy the moment! This moment……..right now! I was reminded of this the other day as I was working on my client, Barbara Spark’s hair. She was talking about how she often has to remind herself to stay focused on the moment. She said that she has to stop herself from obsessing over the past or the future or things she really has no control over and embrace the ‘moment’. I think it’s a really great thing to keep in mind. This is especially true for me as I prepare to move on to a new life.
There are so many great things going on in this moment that I often take for granted or simply ignore because I’m so focused on where I’m going instead of looking around at what’s right in front of me. If I’m not more careful I’ll miss the many pleasures that all these present moments have to offer(Yikes!) . Wouldn’t it be a sad thing to look back at this period of time, only to wish I had enjoyed people and experiences that were right in front of me? It is after all, so fleeting! Time just buzzes by faster with each passing year. I don’t know how I suddenly have a twenty year old daughter! And thirty years of a career has just somehow creeped up on me. I must be having fun, cuz time is really ‘Flying’ by!
Although our plans for the next phase of our life are justifiably on the forefront of my mind there certainly aren’t a lack of wonderful moments to appreciate in the moment. As a matter of fact I’m going to take this moment to write down a few things I am embracing in this moment. First, I live in one of the most beautiful areas in the world! Northern California really does have it all. We have mountains, the ocean , forests, rivers, lakes, a great city, and…….. no one would dare complain about the weather! We are truly spoiled here. I’ve recently decided to indulge in my love of the outdoors (and my need for exercise !) and began hiking twice a week in an effort to get some much needed exercise, and just spend some time out in nature . There’s an open space preserve very near my home where the hiking is great, it’s called Rancho San Antonio. This open space preserve has many different trails which makes it a very popular place for hikers, runners as well as groups of friends just walking, chatting and enjoying the outdoors . I usually try to get there by six or seven in the morning to avoid the crowds. And the wildlife is plentiful(☀. Every time I’m there I see bunnies, wild turkey, quail, deer, chipmunk, and I’v been warned about the wildcats but have not yet spotted one, thank goodness. I have a favorite trail called wildcat loop which takes about one and a half to two hours. It’s very beautiful and always makes me feel as though I’ve gotten plenty of aerobic exercise by the time I get back to the parking lot. Knowing I won’t be here much longer I find myself really soaking up the beauty of these hikes and enjoying the moments as I hike. Most days Scott goes with me and it’s a great time to just chat and catch up on life. I’m also trying to invite friends to join me whenever I can find someone willing to take time out of their usual routine. I find being out in nature and having a friend to chit chat with is a double helping of moments to embrace and be thankful for!
Since this post is about my reflections on moments I’m grateful for, I have to mention my mode of transportation to and from work every day. I’m very lucky to enjoy the rare luxury of being able to walk to my job . From my front door to the door to my salon is fifteen minutes. I walk past so many beautiful gardens full of flowers and I often do literally, ‘stop to smell the roses!🌹 ‘ One thing I really appreciate about walking is having the opportunity to meet people I wouldn’t otherwise ever come into contact with. I’ve met many neighbors and other walkers who are out getting exercise who I would likely not have had the chance to meet if I weren’t out walking . Even walking in the winter while it’s raining brings me great pleasure . I just love to be all bundled up with my rain boots on and my gloves and scarf keeping me toasty as I stroll along . Walking under my big umbrella sheltered from the raindrops is very peaceful ☔ . As long as its not too windy I really quite enjoy walking in the rain. Walking home at the end of the day is a great way to decompress at the end of a very chatty busy day. I would never enjoy exercising in a gym, why would I choose to be indoors, when I can just go walking ? I get the added benefit of listening to the birdsong and greeting fellow walkers ! These are moments I feel grateful for on a daily basis!
I can’t write a post about remembering to be grateful for the moment without mentioning the wonderful moment when I walk in the door to my home each night after work. Many nights I can smell my dinner cooking as I walk up the walkway to the front door! Mmmmmmm! Then I’m greeted by my Mother-in-Law, who is ‘always’ in the kitchen helping her son prepare dinner. This is something I am grateful for every single night. Not just Scott cooking such yummy food (Drool!) but Pat’s presence there. She’s lived with us for a year now and it’s been a very good year indeed! I’m pretty sure our situation, two women living (happily ) under one roof, is uncommon!👯 But somehow it works for us (insert big smile here!😃). When we first came up with the idea of Pat living with us I think none of us knew exactly how it would work out. I’m so glad we all took the chance and just dove in because it’s been so great having her around. And I’m pretty sure she feels the same way. We’ve had lots of great laughs and have gotten to know each other and to appreciate each other much more than we did before living together ,(not that we didn’t already appreciate each other) . You really get to ‘Know’ someone when you see one another day in and day out. And what a blessing it’s been to have this time together. I’m planning to remember to enjoy every moment I have with Pat ! And looking forward to her visits to Panama where we can enjoy lots of fun moments sharing with her all the beauty of our new home.
The Grand Finale of moments I’m currently enjoying are the glorious moments with my daughter! Yes, it’s true! I thought such a thing would never happen but alas! (Ye’ of little faith!😌) My sweet girl has somehow, miraculously, morphed into quite a lovely young women! All those painful, dark , scary years are behind us . Now I find myself smiling when I think of her and I’m savoring each and every moment when she’s around. I used to dread the question,” How’s Mariah?”, now I’m beyond thrilled to update everyone about how amazing she is! To say I’m ‘Proud’ of her would be an understatement ! These are my moments to enjoy , and boy, do I ever!!!! 😃. I’ve come home from work several times to find Mariah and Scott in the kitchen happily cooking dinner ‘together’. Just writing this down makes me smile…… 😃. ( I notice a theme here , seeing people cooking my dinner makes me happy.). But really, the pleasure for me is in being in the presence of the people I love. My Husband and my Daughter are the jewels of my life! These moments when the three of us are together are moments that make my heart glad ! I know it may sound really weird , but it’s moments like these that give me perspective on those dark teen years. And I can say , beyond a doubt, it was worth it! It really makes me appreciate these moments of happiness , not just appreciate ……CHERISH!
Keeping a balance of planning for a future, learning from or forgiving the past, and enjoying the moment is not an easy task. Most of the time I know for me , balance is something I strive for but rarely consistently achieve. That’s called, “Life”! 😄. It’s a series of experiences that, if we are paying attention to, create a wealth beyond material possessions or money. A wealth of learning who we are, sharing who we are and authentically appreciating each experience as a gift.
(I would love to hear about a moment in your life that you are enjoying! Send me a comment , it only takes a minute! 😍. )